Last year I lost over 6 stone.
This was after I got engaged to my husband in December 2014 and before our Wedding in November 2015. I lost the majority of the weight in 5 months.
When I met my husband I was about six stone (84 lbs) overweight and this was the same when we got engaged.
I agree with Ellen and Sherrie that it is very important to be a healthy weight and that men are very visual.
However, having been overweight for the majority of my adult life and struggling with my weight since and being conscious of my weight from a very early age I would encourage all women out there who are overweight not to use this as an excuse not to make an effort with your appearance, trying to improve your health and fitness or a reason not to practice The Rules.
When I lost six stone I felt so much better – physically, emotionally and mentally. I am currently learning how to maintain my weight and this is my current challenge. This was not something that happened over night and not due to lack of knowledge. I have a BSc (Honours) Degree in Sports Science, so I had the know-how, it was the psychological aspect that I battled. People saw my weight loss as something sudden but I really feel it happened as a result of elements of my life coming together and becoming clearer. I learned about NLP (and completed my NLP Master Practitioner Certificate), I let go of a lot of physical clutter prior to my weight-loss and I began to be more present and mindful of my present state.
However, I don’t wish to get too off-track here today. My message here today is to practice The Rules no matter what your weight or what you look like. I struggled with my weight and attended weight loss groups – my weight would go up and down. However, I focussed on what I could do. I read books on how to apply make up and what clothes would suit my figure. I did my best to put my best face forward (as E & S say). I tried different activities and weight loss groups and eventually it clicked and I lost the weight (after about 15 years of trying!). I sincerely hope it doesn’t take you this long and I plan to share my tips and what I did to lose weight in future posts.
Make yourself feel good now! Revamp your wardrobe – only keep outfits that fit you (see my recent blog: Letting Go). Read up on what make-up, clothes and hair styles will suit your figure, skin colour and hair type. Don’t try to be someone else. It’s good to have style role models – but make sure they have a similar skin colour / hair type and figure to yours otherwise you are setting yourself up to fail and feel lousy. You are a CUAO! When you feel good about yourself and love yourself you will attract people to you – overweight or not.
Do not wait to practice The Rules or make effort with your appearance or to have clothes that fit you – for example, if you find yourself saying “I’ll do that when I’ve lost the weight…”.
However, this doesn’t mean you should give up on your weight-loss goals. Remember it’s important to make an effort with your appearance, fitness and health. After all – do you appreciate it when a man / your man makes an effort with his appearance?
Have fun with this and enjoy the process!
What are you going to do? Here are some suggestions:
- Read books, blogs and magazines and watch You Tube videos on:
- What type of figure you have and the clothes that suit your figure.
- Applying make-up and the right colour / type of make up for your skin colour / type.
- Hair styles and what will suit your face / is best suited to your needs.
- Forms of activity – it doesn’t have to be the gym – it could be any activity that gets you moving and you enjoy.
- Diets / healthy eating.