You cannot rely on assurance from those around you for your self esteem and self worth.
It goes against the whole meaning of self esteem. According to the online Cambridge dictionary it means: “belief and confidence in your own ability and value” (Reference:
Therefore by definition you cannot rely on outside forces for self-esteem. However many people do this, looking for approval and assurance from their love partner. This puts an immediate strain on the relationship and can also attract controlling partners.
Examples of seeking assurance could be:
- Not trusting your own judgement and asking others what to do. This is different to proactively asking others for their opinions and suggestions plus researching something and making an informed decision. So not trusting your own judgement is when you don’t trust yourself or your own decisions.
- Needing compliments to feel good about yourself, what you’re doing and / or how you look.
- Seeking or feeling needy for reassurance from others all the time.
Are you looking for a guy to complete you? Do you feel like you are a glass half full and you need a man to fill the other half? Do you feel a man would make you happy? Kim Evazians coached me and Kim recently shared a post on Facebook about Cinderella syndrome, when a woman doesn’t take 100% responsibility for her own happiness: https://www.facebook.com/170633866308135/posts/2463469663691199/?sfnsn=xwmo
However, even if you have self esteem issues, this isn’t an excuse to stop dating and looking for Mr Right. You learn as you go. You can workout on your body, mind and self esteem whilst looking for Mr Right. If you’re finding excuses not to date read my blog about not needing to be perfect.
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