You may have read my blog about the ‘Immersion‘ technique I used to help me adopt Rulesy behaviours and help me to make them more automated – for them to become habitual. Now if you have been following me for some time you may also know that my strapline is ‘Rules Breaker turned Rules Coach’! The Rules are a set of behaviours that you can learn and master but it does take practice, effort, persistence and commitment because ultimately once you have mastered a rule you will notice it will change the way you think about things.
In his book “Bounce: The Myth of Talent and the Power of Practice” by Matthew Syed, British Table Tennis player, Olympian and Commonwealth Table Tennis Champion, he states that “Purposeful practice is about striving for what is just out of reach and not quite making it; it is about grappling with tasks beyond current limitations and falling short again and again. Excellence is about stepping outside the comfort zone, training with a spirit of endeavour, and accepting the inevitability of trials and tribulations. Progress is built, in effect, upon the foundations of necessary failure. That is the essential paradox of expert performance.”
Now I’m not saying you have to be a world class Rules girl, but my point in sharing this quote with you is to let you know that when I practiced ‘The Rules’ these two important factors that Matthew writes about – practice and purposeful practice (that challenges us beyond our comfort zone and usual limits) – were something that I did. I committed myself to development. I aimed to practice The Rules in all aspects of my life and I immersed myself in the subject. I practiced and I failed and I practiced and I improved. I didn’t give up, although at times I might have felt like I wanted to. Reading ‘The Rules’ books are not a magic pill (although reading them and referencing them regularly will tell you what to do to improve). It is sustained practice and doing what feels uncomfortable that will help you develop.
It’s worth examining what areas you’re struggling with and re-reading the books to see what things you can do to challenge yourself. What areas have you been resisting? What can you do to improve and challenge yourself and take yourself outside of your current comfort zone?
Do you always go out to the same places?
Are you going out every week and more than once a week?
Have you taken up hobbies and activities regularly where you can meet single men?
Are you online dating?
Do you make an effort with your appearance?
A way to notice how you are progressing is looking at your results. Keeping a journal can be a great way to notice gradual improvements that you might’ve taken for granted. Make sure to note your improvements and value changes you are making.
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